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In the beginning, most relationships have lots of positive energy, or spark. Everyone feels good about everything, and the world around them seems not to exist, or at least be relevant. Then life steps in, and brings you back down to earth. "The honeymoon is over," so to speak. This doesn't mean the happy times, the fun times, have to be gone forever, leaving you wondering, ten, twenty years later, what happened. There are numerous ways to keep that spark alive, such as flirting, going out on dates, and being creative.
Flirting is not just for people who aren't a couple yet. It's a great way to show your SO that you are still attracted to them and enjoy being around them. Did you have pet names for each other when you first met? Use those once in a while, just to mix things up. Remember all the things you did when you trying to get them to fall for you, or get in bed with you? A wink across the room, or a compliment on their appearance, or an inside joke about some mutually embarrassing (but fun) experience reminds both of you how much fun you can have together. When was the last time you and your partner had a date? If you can't remember, it's been WAY too long. Even if you can remember, it's probably been too long. If you have to, schedule a "date night," at least once a week. "Once a week? Who has time for that?" you might say. You do. Make time for it. This doesn't mean you have go out every week and spend a bunch of money on dinner and a movie (although it is good to splurge once in a while, to spoil yourselves), but you should set aside time at least once a week just for the two of you. Do something together that you both enjoy. Go for a walk in the park, go see a movie, sit on the porch swing holding hands, or even spend the entire day in bed together (not sleeping, or course). It helps keep you connected to what's really important, and not just business partners in Relationship, Inc. Creativity and spontaneity also help keep the spark alive in a relationship. Find new ways to show your mate that you still desire them. Buy flowers or small gifts for no special occasion. Serve her breakfast in bed before she goes to work. When he gets home from work, greet him at the door wearing an apron (JUST an apron). Be creative. Be spontaneous. Have fun with it, so you don't forget the reasons you got together in the first place. Remember, there was a time when things were happy-go-lucky in your relationship. Don't let life get in the way of that. Flirt a little. Go out and spend time together, frequently. But most of all, be creative, and have fun with it.
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